Parents forbid grandma from babysitting after she decides to cut their 6-year-old daughter's hair without permission, grandma stands by her actions: ‘It will grow back’

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  • "You had no right"
  • "AITA for telling my mom shes not allowed to babysit after she cut my daughters hair?"

    My wife (32F) and I (34M) have a 6yo daughter Lily which has long, curly hair that she absolutely adores. Taking care of it is a bonding activity for her and the wife, they do hair masks, try out
  • different braids, and Lily loves showing off her princess curls. Last weekend, my mom who we will refer to as "Karen" from now on, offered to babysit Lily so my wife and I could have a date
  • night. When we got back, I was shocked to see that Lilys beautiful hair had been cut into a short, chin-length bob. My mom proudly said she fixed it, claiming it was too unruly and that Lily would look more mature this way.
  • When I asked her why the f would a 6yo need to look more mature all I got was a blank stare. Lily was devastated. She kept saying she didnt want to look like
  • a boy and cried for hours. My wife was furious and asked Karen why she thought this was okay. Karen defended herself, saying its just hair and it will grow back.
  • I told her that she had no right to make that decision and that I no longer trusted her to watch Lily unsupervised. Karen was livid, accusing me of overreacting and
  • punishing her over a haircut. She insists she was just trying to help and says Im being disrespectful by taking her grandparent rights away.
  • My sister thinks Im being harsh, saying Karen was probably overwhelmed and trying to manage Lilys hair. But I feel like boundaries were crossed. Lily is
  • still heartbroken and I dont know how to fix the damage. AITA for telling my Karen she cant babysit anymore?
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  • MissionHoneydew2209 She has NO grandparent rights. Hold fast to your decision. If your sister gets up your colon again offer to cut HER hair. Is she refuses tell he she's not being fair. I'm betting your sister was in on this with your mom.
  • Don't force your daughter to have a relationship with a woman who traumatized her and took away her agency.
  • Gordita Pollo Nta let's be real- your mum used the occasion to power trip over your wife to take something special away from a 6 year old, entirely because she's a nasty and mean spirited
  • hag. It wouldn't matter if there was real tension, she still took it out on a 6 year old. It was a case of 'if I can't be part of the fun there's going to be no fun'.
  • Comfortable-Focus123 NTA - Your mom should know better. You NEVER cut a child's hair or make a change to their appearance without parental approval.
  • WhereasParticular867 NTA. You are being harsh, because the situation calls for being harsh. You weren't out of town for a month. This isn't the 80s, we have cellphones. It was not your mother's call to make.
  • xxdarknessqueen Looks like Karen needs a lesson on respecting boundaries and not playing hairdresser without consent. Your daughter should have a say in how she wants to style her own hair, not your mom. #FreeLilysHair
  • allieoops925 Always support your child first. Karen was way out of line. I have 4 grandchildren and would NEVER alter anything on them without express permission.
  • ConfusedAt63 NTA, tell your mother that for her punishment, if she would rather, your wife gets to give her a hair cut and see what she says to that trade.
  • phyrsis NTA so long as you keep Lily away from your mother entirely until she gives everyone a meaningful and heartfelt apology.

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